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Episodes
Tuesday Mar 31, 2020
Tuesday Mar 31, 2020
Tom welcomes back OG YOB author, Marshall, for a catchup on his life these last few months living on a farm with over a dozen people. They also chit-chat about Seattle and the splendor of Mt. Rainier, as well as the importance of community, now more than ever, during this coronavirus era.
Join us these next few weeks during the coronavirus pandemic for more 20-minute bite-sized conversations with members of the YOB and "YOB-adjacent" community. We hope these little episodes bring you even a dash of joy.
Remember: you are not alone! Even the sparrow stays at home.
FOLLOW YOB
- Your Other Brothers blog
- Your Other Brothers on Facebook
- Your Other Brothers on Twitter
- Your Other Brothers on Instagram
- Your Other Brothers on YouTube
SUPPORT YOB
- Your Other Brothers on Patreon
Monday Mar 30, 2020
Monday Mar 30, 2020
Tom kicks off this new semi-daily spinoff podcast with former YOBcast guest, Nate! We talk how coronavirus is affecting us, including the breaking down of our to-do lists and routines as God continues to move. Tom also shows Nate his recent driveway chalk art for some artistic critique, and we barely get into discussing "Tiger King."
Join us these next few weeks during the coronavirus pandemic for more 20-minute bite-sized conversations with members of the YOB and "YOB-adjacent" community. We hope these little episodes bring you even a dash of joy.
Remember: you are not alone! Even the sparrow stays at home.
FOLLOW YOB
- Your Other Brothers blog
- Your Other Brothers on Facebook
- Your Other Brothers on Twitter
- Your Other Brothers on Instagram
- Your Other Brothers on YouTube
SUPPORT YOB
- Your Other Brothers on Patreon
Friday Mar 27, 2020
Friday Mar 27, 2020
The coronavirus pandemic has consumed the planet. In this time of widespread uncertainty, how do we not be afraid? What other things in life cause us dread?
Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for what's sure to be a "time capsule" of a podcast. We dive into how the current coronavirus crisis is affecting our daily lives, and we also cast the conversation beyond this pandemic -- starting with our relational fears, and then spreading to fears for our sexuality and spiritual fears.
Namely, we ask this question: is Jesus enough? What if He isn't?
We hope you enjoy our latest episode below: FEAR.
We can only do what we do because of our 180+ patrons on Patreon. If you find value in this podcast and the greater work and community of Your Other Brothers, would you consider pledging monthly to our cause? Pledging even $1/month also grants you access to The YOBaLOGUE, our 30-minute monthly bonus podcast that features listener feedback, bloopers, intro riffs and tangents, and other cut content from this episode.
Check out our Patreon page below for more information!
After you listen to our latest episode, we’d love to hear from you. Please feel free to comment below your story, ask us questions, or give us feedback.
You can also call us at YOB! Leave us a message anytime at 706.389.8009. We feature listener calls on The YOBaLOGUE, and we look forward to continuing this episode’s epilogue-dialogue with our listeners.
Be sure to subscribe to our show on the podcast app of your choice so you never miss an episode. And if you enjoy our show, we’d appreciate your rating and review on Apple Podcasts! You can rate and review us anonymously or by whatever nickname you prefer in your settings.
Huge thanks to tsimonds for the 5-star review!
We’re now up to 110+ ratings/reviews on Apple Podcasts! To have triple digit reviews is such a landmark for any podcast. Thanks to all who have taken the time to rate and review us! It helps others find the show as we continue to grow.
New to the show? Wanna get in touch? Shoot us an email: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
You can also write us the old-fashioned way! We gladly accept postcards, handwritten letters, Brazilian Wandering Spiders (in cages), and other nifty-gifties:
Your Other Brothers
P.O. Box 843
Asheville, NC 28802
Enjoy our FEAR episode! And don’t forget to comment on our podcast episode page. We’d love to hear from you. We’re with you.
What anxieties or fears do you feel during this coronavirus pandemic? What relational, sexual, or spiritual fears do you face frequently? How do you overcome your fears?
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
- Brazilian Wandering Spider info!
- That Sounds Fun podcast with Annie F. Downs
- Tom’s posts
- Ryan’s posts
- Jacob's posts
FOLLOW US
Friday Mar 13, 2020
Friday Mar 13, 2020
We've written over 300 blogs here at YOB since 2015, and we gathered four of our site's authors to discuss our favorite ones -- recorded in front of a couple dozen people, no less.
That's right, it's our first-ever LIVE recorded podcast with a digital audience! We invited our Patreon supporters on Facebook to watch and participate in the discussion with comments and questions for this episode's cast: Tom, Ryan, Dean, and Matt.
It's a real "Avengers" gathering as each of us reads our personal favorite blog for the cast and YOBBERS to discuss. We also mention our blogs that have garnered the most views these last four years, and Tom and Matt share lots of fun-loving "big brother" moments together.
We hope you enjoy our latest episode: FAVORITE BLOGS!
We can only do what we do because of our 180+ patrons on Patreon. If you find value in this podcast and the greater work and community of Your Other Brothers, would you consider pledging monthly to our cause? Pledging even $1/month also grants you access to The YOBaLOGUE, our 30-minute monthly bonus podcast that features listener feedback, bloopers, intro riffs and tangents, and other cut content from this episode.
Check out our Patreon page below for more information!
After you listen to our latest episode, we’d love to hear from you. Please feel free to comment below your story, ask us questions, or give us feedback.
You can also call us at YOB! Leave us a message anytime at 706.389.8009. We feature listener calls on The YOBaLOGUE, and we look forward to continuing this episode’s epilogue-dialogue with our listeners.
Be sure to subscribe to our show on the podcast app of your choice so you never miss an episode. And if you enjoy our show, we’d appreciate your rating and review on Apple Podcasts! You can rate and review us anonymously or by whatever nickname you prefer in your settings.
We’re now up to 110+ ratings/reviews on Apple Podcasts! To have triple digit reviews is such a landmark for any podcast. Thanks to all who have taken the time to rate and review us! It helps others find the show as we continue to grow.
New to the show? Wanna get in touch? Shoot us an email: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
You can also write us the old-fashioned way! We gladly accept postcards, handwritten letters, blogs, and other nifty-gifties:
Your Other Brothers
P.O. Box 843
Asheville, NC 28802
Enjoy our FAVORITE BLOGS episode! And don’t forget to comment on our podcast episode page. We’d love to hear from you. We’re with you.
What are your favorite blogs on YOB? Did you enjoy this LIVE episode, and do you have any other ideas for live recordings?
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
- YOB's blog hub
- Dean's #4 favorite blog: "Why I Want to be LGBT"
- Dean's #3 favorite blog: "Permission to Read Our Stories"
- Dean's #2 favorite blog: "Joy After Gay Sex"
- Dean's #1 favorite and most-viewed blog: "Real Men Don't Take Baths"
- Ryan's most-viewed blog: "My Battle With Male Body Image"
- Ryan's favorite blog: "SHIRTLESS POOL WRESTLING!!!"
- Matt's most-viewed blog: "Looking for a Generous Guy"
- Matt's favorite blog: "I Like a Girl?"
- Tom's most-viewed blog: "Why I'm Afraid to Take Off My Shirt"
- Tom's favorite blog: "I've Always Wanted a Big Brother"
- Tom’s posts
- Ryan’s posts
- Jacob’s posts
FOLLOW US
Friday Feb 28, 2020
Friday Feb 28, 2020
Have you ever felt lonely within your sexuality? Do you choose loneliness or does loneliness choose you? Extroverted or introverted, do you embrace regular solitude, treating it as a spiritual practice?
Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a discussion on the divergence of loneliness and solitude. We talk about the healthy and not-so-healthy ways we cope with loneliness and how we seek out solitude. Additionally, we talk about the dynamic of living alone or with others as single gay/SSA men, forecasting our living situations for the decades to come.
We also dive into Tom's Valentine's Day solo excursion to a brand new Enneagram-centric photo studio. Because of course he did.
We hope you enjoy our latest episode: LONELINESS V. SOLITUDE!
We can only do what we do because of our 180+ patrons on Patreon. If you find value in this podcast and the greater work and community of Your Other Brothers, would you consider pledging monthly to our cause? Pledging even $1/month also grants you access to The YOBaLOGUE, our 30-minute monthly bonus podcast that features listener feedback, bloopers, intro riffs and tangents, and other cut content from this episode.
Check out our Patreon page below for more information!
After you listen to our latest episode, we’d love to hear from you. Please feel free to comment below your story, ask us questions, or give us feedback.
You can also call us at YOB! Leave us a message anytime at 706.389.8009. We feature listener calls on The YOBaLOGUE, and we look forward to continuing this episode’s epilogue-dialogue with our listeners.
Be sure to subscribe to our show on the podcast app of your choice so you never miss an episode. And if you enjoy our show, we’d appreciate your rating and review on Apple Podcasts! You can rate and review us anonymously or by whatever nickname you prefer in your settings.
We’re now up to 110+ ratings/reviews on Apple Podcasts! To have triple digit reviews is such a landmark for any podcast. Thanks to all who have taken the time to rate and review us! It helps others find the show as we continue to grow.
New to the show? Wanna get in touch? Shoot us an email: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
You can also write us the old-fashioned way! We gladly accept postcards, handwritten letters, chocolates, and other nifty-gifties:
Your Other Brothers
P.O. Box 843
Asheville, NC 28802
Enjoy our LONELINESS V. SOLITUDE episode! And don’t forget to comment on our podcast episode page. We’d love to hear from you. We’re with you.
Do you feel lonely within your sexuality? How do you intentionally seek out solitude from others and regular time with the Lord?
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
- Wesley Ayers's website and Patreon
- Enneagraph Portrait Studio
- Tom's posts
- Ryan's posts
- Jacob's posts
- Your Other Brothers on Facebook
- Your Other Brothers on Twitter
- Your Other Brothers on Instagram
- Your Other Brothers on Patreon
Friday Feb 14, 2020
Friday Feb 14, 2020
What led to your having gay sex for the first time? Can you separate the physical from the emotional in gay sex? How many times have you had gay sex, and would you consider yourself a sex addict?
It's a throwback episode with three of our original YOB cofounders: Tom, Dean, and Matt. We talk with Matt about his journey and struggles with gay sex and hookups. It's a raw, courageous chronicling of his story as a pastor's kid – a story still being written to this day.
We also catch up with Dean and Matt from the last year or so, including Dean's recent exploits to Canada (and questionable Canadian accent) and Matt's sarcastic sense of humor (or actual disappointment) with Tom.
We’re back to producing two podcast episodes per month all year long, and we hope you enjoy our latest "classic episode" below!
We can only do what we do because of our 180+ patrons on Patreon. If you find value in this podcast and the greater work and community of Your Other Brothers, would you consider pledging monthly to our cause? Pledging even $1/month also grants you access to The YOBaLOGUE, our 30-minute monthly bonus podcast that features listener feedback, bloopers, intro riffs and tangents, and other cut content from this episode.
Check out our Patreon page below for more information!
After you listen to our latest episode, we’d love to hear from you. Please feel free to comment below your story, ask us questions, or give us feedback.
You can also call us at YOB! Leave us a message anytime at 706.389.8009. We feature listener calls on The YOBaLOGUE, and we look forward to continuing this episode’s epilogue-dialogue with our listeners.
Be sure to subscribe to our show on the podcast app of your choice so you never miss an episode. And if you enjoy our show, we’d appreciate your rating and review on Apple Podcasts!
You can rate and review The YOBcast anonymously or by whatever name you prefer in your settings; to do so, just navigate to Store – Account – Edit Nickname.
Special thanks to Phil who recently rated our show 5 stars.
We’re now up to 110 ratings/reviews on Apple Podcasts! To have triple digit reviews is such a landmark for any podcast. Thanks to all who have taken the time to rate and review us! It helps others find the show as we continue to grow.
New to the show? Wanna get in touch? Shoot us an email: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
You can also write us the old-fashioned way! We gladly accept postcards, handwritten letters, washers and dryers, and other nifty-gifties:
Your Other Brothers
P.O. Box 843
Asheville, NC 28802
Enjoy our GAY SEX AND HOOKUPS episode! And don't forget to comment on our podcast episode page: Would you consider yourself a sex addict? Do you struggle with hookups? How have you coped or found victory in your struggles with gay sex?
We’d love to hear from you. We’re with you.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
- Matt's blog, "The Reason Why I Love Sex"
- Matt's blog, "Never Guilty About All My Hookups"
- Matt's blog, "Why I Can't be a Church Leader"
- Matt's blog, "The First Time I Contracted an STD"
- Tom’s posts
- Dean's posts
- Matt's posts
FOLLOW US
Friday Jan 24, 2020
Friday Jan 24, 2020
Do we talk about pornography too much as the Church or not nearly enough? Do we "talk about talking about" pornography or do we actually talk about it?
Pornography is more accessible than ever before and, increasingly, more aggressive. It's a struggle and an addiction that has reached and claimed all people: gay, straight, men, and women. Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob as we take a deep dive into the science and story of pornography. It's one of our classic episodes that we're reopening in a new way.
Beyond our discussion on porn, hear about Ryan and Jacob's adventures in the "City of Forts" as well as the notion of our one day recording a podcast in . . . Florida . . . dun dun dun.
We're back to producing two podcast episodes per month, and we hope you enjoy our latest episode below!
We can only do what we do because of our 175+ patrons on Patreon. If you find value in this podcast and the greater work and community of Your Other Brothers, would you consider pledging monthly to our cause? Pledging even $1/month also grants you access to The YOBaLOGUE, our 30-minute monthly bonus podcast that features listener feedback, bloopers, intro riffs and tangents, and other cut content from this episode.
Check out our Patreon page below for more information!
After you listen to our latest episode, we’d love to hear from you. Please feel free to comment below your story, ask us questions, or give us feedback.
You can also call us at YOB! Leave us a message anytime at 706.389.8009. We feature listener calls on The YOBaLOGUE, and we look forward to continuing this episode’s epilogue-dialogue with our listeners.
Be sure to subscribe to our show on the podcast app of your choice so you never miss an episode. And if you enjoy our show, we'd appreciate your rating and review on Apple Podcasts!
You can rate and review The YOBcast anonymously or by whatever name you prefer in your settings; to do so, just navigate to Store – Account – Edit Nickname.
Special thanks to Luke who recently rated our show 5 stars.
We’re now over 100 ratings/reviews on Apple Podcasts! To have triple digit reviews is such a landmark for any podcast. Thanks to all who have taken the time to rate and review us! It helps others find the show as we continue to grow.
New to the show? Wanna get in touch? Shoot us an email: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
You can also write us the old-fashioned way! We gladly accept postcards, handwritten letters, CANDY, and other nifty-gifties:
Your Other Brothers
P.O. Box 843
Asheville, NC 28802
Enjoy our PORNOGRAPHY episode! And don’t forget to comment on our podcast episode page. We’d love to hear from you. We’re with you.
How did you discover pornography? Is pornography use a regular struggle? How do you find triumph over pornography, accountability or otherwise?
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
- Fight the New Drug's PDF, "Harmful Effects of Pornography"
- Eugene's blog, "I am an Unlovable Vampire"
- Tom's blog, "I Only Watch Soft-Core Pornography"
- Tom's blog, "I'm Almost 30 and I've Never Been Kissed"
- Tom's blog, "I've Never Wanted to Have Sex with Another Man"
- Tom’s posts
- Ryan’s posts
- Jacob’s posts
- Your Other Brothers on Facebook
- Your Other Brothers on Twitter
- Your Other Brothers on Instagram
- Your Other Brothers on Patreon
Friday Jan 10, 2020
Friday Jan 10, 2020
In the spirit of resolutions, self-improvement, and growth in this new year, we're talking about mentors: those wise, sage-like figures who guide us through this life.
Tom, Ryan, and Jacob talk about their favorite mentors in books and movies, sharing some of their own mentorship experiences from years past. What qualities do all these figures share in common? We also discuss the concept of mentoring a new generation -- including whether we feel we're even capable of such a thing.
It's an awesome kickstart to a new year and a new decade as we recommit to producing two podcast episodes per month!
It's all thanks to our 170+ patrons on Patreon. We do what we do because of you! If you find value in this podcast and the greater network of Your Other Brothers, would you consider pledging monthly to our cause? Pledging even $1/month also grants you access to The YOBaLOGUE, our 30-minute bonus podcast that features listener feedback, bloopers, intro riffs and tangents, and other cut content from this episode.
Check out our Patreon page below for more information!
After you listen to our latest episode, we'd love to hear from you. Please feel free to comment below your story, ask us questions, or give us feedback.
You can also call us at YOB! Leave us a message anytime at 706.389.8009. We feature listener calls on The YOBaLOGUE, and we look forward to continuing this episode’s epilogue-dialogue with our listeners.
If you enjoy our show, we’d appreciate your rating and review on Apple Podcasts. You can rate and review The YOBcast anonymously or by whatever name you prefer in your settings; to do so, just navigate to Store – Account – Edit Nickname.
Be sure to subscribe to our show on the podcast app of your choice so you never miss an episode.
We’re now over 100 ratings/reviews on Apple Podcasts! To have triple digit reviews is such a landmark for any podcast. Thanks to all who have taken the time to rate and review us! It helps others find the show.
New to the show? Wanna get in touch? Shoot us an email: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
You can also write us the old-fashioned way! We gladly accept postcards, handwritten letters, vision-enhancing devices, and other nifty-gifties:
Your Other Brothers
P.O. Box 843
Asheville, NC 28802
Enjoy our MENTORS episode! And don’t forget to comment on our podcast episode page. We’d love to hear from you. We’re with you.
Have you had any meaningful mentors in your life? Do you currently mentor somebody else or hope to do so in the future?
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
- Tom's 2020 "Mark" blog about boldness
- Tom's posts
- Ryan's posts
- Jacob's posts
- Your Other Brothers on Facebook
- Your Other Brothers on Twitter
- Your Other Brothers on Instagram
- Your Other Brothers on Patreon
Friday Dec 13, 2019
Friday Dec 13, 2019
It's an undoubtedly difficult season for many in our community, and we talk about singleness during the holidays: the disconnect, the loneliness, and the finding of hope and joy when hope and joy may feel so far away.
Tom, Ryan, and Jacob share their stories of holidays past and present, answering some listener questions along the way, including the concept of spending the holidays with chosen family versus blood family, and whether we've ever been asked if we've found that "special lady" yet.
We also talk to Jacob about his reaction to our last episode in which we featured the story of his coming out to his older brother, Nate. And since it's Christmas, Tom hands out some specially themed "love language presents" to his dear brothers. They're sure to enjoy them this Christmas.
It's our year-ending, decade-ending, holiday-themed extravaganza of a podcast!
Our current podcast production schedule is one public episode and one private episode per month, the latter available exclusively to our patrons on Patreon. Pledging even $1/month grants you access to The YOBaLOGUE, our 30-minute bonus podcast that features listener feedback, bloopers, one “brother beat” segment, and other cut content from this episode.
Check out our Patreon page below for more information!
As always, we thank our YOBBERS — financial backers of Your Other Brothers who supply our show with phenomenal content. We couldn’t produce a podcast twice monthly without our faithful YOBBERS! Your support and contributions mean so much.
You can now call YOB! Call and leave us a message anytime at 706.389.8009.
Ask us a question, comment on this HOLIDAY SINGLENESS episode, give us feedback, or tell us a story! We feature listener calls on The YOBaLOGUE, and we look forward to continuing this episode’s epilogue/dialogue with our listeners.
If you enjoy our show, we’d appreciate your rating and review on Apple Podcasts. You can rate and review The YOBcast anonymously or by whatever name you prefer in your settings; to do so, just navigate to Store – Account – Edit Nickname.
Special thanks to Randal for his supportive rating and review! Be sure to subscribe to our show on the podcast app of your choice so you never miss an episode.
We’re now over 100 ratings/reviews on Apple Podcasts! To have triple digit reviews is such a landmark for any podcast. Thanks to all who have taken the time to rate and review us! It helps others find the show.
New to the show? Wanna get in touch? Shoot us an email: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
You can also write us the old-fashioned way! We gladly accept postcards, handwritten letters, egg nog (please, none of that fat-free nonsense), and other nifty-gifties:
Your Other Brothers
P.O. Box 843
Asheville, NC 28802
Enjoy our HOLIDAY SINGLENESS episode! And don’t forget to comment/vent on our podcast episode page. We'd love to hear from you. We're with you.
How do you feel about the holidays this year? Has it changed any from previous years? In what active ways can we healthily practice both lament and joy this holiday season?
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
- Our last episode with Jacob's older brother, Nate
- Tom’s posts
- Ryan’s posts
- Jacob’s posts
- Your Other Brothers on Patreon
- Your Other Brothers on Facebook
- Your Other Brothers on Twitter
- Your Other Brothers on Instagram
Friday Oct 11, 2019
Friday Oct 11, 2019
For better or worse, we all start with families of origin. But what of this concept of families of choice? A chosen family that goes beyond blood and DNA?
Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a discussion on chosen family: what it means for the LGBTQ+ community, what it means for believers in Christ, and what it means for this overlap of communities like YOB, Revoice, and beyond.
Beyond our awesome conversation on chosen family, it's a special episode for other reasons: our first episode back in the "Jewel of the Blue Ridge" in over a year! We talk about responding to mystery texts and sleepwalking episodes in Ryan's and Jacob's "shameless shares," and Tom and Ryan talk about their recent adventure to Montana together.
Our current podcast production schedule is one public episode and one private episode per month, the latter available exclusively to our patrons on Patreon. Pledging even $1/month grants you access to The YOBaLOGUE, our 30-minute bonus podcast that features listener feedback, bloopers, one “brother beat” segment, and other cut content from this episode.
Check out our Patreon page for more information!
As always, we thank our YOBBERS — financial backers of Your Other Brothers who supply our show with phenomenal content. We couldn’t produce a podcast twice monthly without our faithful YOBBERS! Your support and contributions mean so much.
You can now call YOB! Call and leave us a message anytime at 706.389.8009.
Ask us a question, comment on this CHOSEN FAMILY episode, give us feedback, or tell us a story! We feature listener calls on The YOBaLOGUE, and we look forward to continuing this episode’s epilogue/dialogue with our listeners.
If you enjoy our show, we’d appreciate your rating and review on iTunes. You can rate and review The YOBcast anonymously or by whatever name you prefer in your iTunes settings; to do so, just navigate to Store – Account – Edit Nickname.
Every iTunes rating/review helps us extend our reach even further. Subscribe to our show on the podcast app of your choice so you never miss an episode!
We're now over 100 ratings/reviews on Apple Podcasts! How awesome. Thanks to all who have taken the time to rate and review our little show! It helps us get noticed in a huge way. To have triple digit reviews is such a landmark for any podcast.
Special thanks to nicknames87 for her recent rating/review!
New to the show? Wanna get in touch? Shoot us an email: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
You can also write us the old-fashioned way! We gladly accept postcards, handwritten letters, coupons for escape rooms, and other nifty-gifties:
Your Other Brothers
P.O. Box 843
Asheville, NC 28802
Enjoy our CHOSEN FAMILY episode! And don't forget to comment on our podcast episode page:
How familiar are you with this term, "chosen family"? Do you have people in your life you'd consider your chosen family, and vice versa? Is the concept of a longterm chosen family something that inspires or worries you?
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
- Pew Research poll on LGBTQ+ American adults
- A Better Balance poll on LGBTQ+ American adults
- Maura Ryan's article on Slate: "Why the potluck is one of the most enduring and beautiful ways queer people make family"
- Jacob's post: "Fully Known and Fully Loved"
- Tom’s posts
- Ryan’s posts
- Jacob’s posts
- Jacob's slaughtered orchid (RIP)