Your Other Brothers Podcast
051: Attachment Styles

051: Attachment Styles

September 6, 2019

We're diving deeper into emotional attachment with special guest, Taylor Zimmerman! Taylor's blogged at Spiritual Friendship and spoken at Revoice. He's a University of Chicago student currently pursuing his third (3rd!) master's degree with interests in philosophy of religion, theology, and psychoanalysis — and how they all come together.

Taylor talks to us about attachment theory and the four attachment styles: secure, ambivalent-preoccupied, dismissing-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant.

It's the deepest we've ever doven on this topic, a fascinating psychological exploration into why we attach to other men the ways we do as gay/SSA (same-sex attracted) men, sharing our relational stories along the way. We also close the episode talking about arousal we may experience when attaching to those we love and what it means for the friendship.

Additionally, Tom, Ryan, and Jacob catch up on the last month! Ryan rode a train to Connecticut, Jacob rode a boat in Alaska, and Tom continued living out of his car while shedding pink calamine scales. We also share our "triumphant tidbits" involving vacation styles (chill or action-packed?) and the last times we felt mighty.

Finally, Jacob gets a special surprise in the form of a knock at his door that you won't want to miss.

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What is your primary attachment style? Does it vary depending on the person or type of person (male, female, straight, gay, etc.?) to whom you're attaching?

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050: Emotional Attachment

050: Emotional Attachment

August 2, 2019

We're back! After a brief summer hiatus, we return with our landmark fiftieth episode.

Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob sharing stories of emotional attachment: the good ways we attach to other men, and the not-so-good ways we attach.

We open the episode by catching up on our summer trips and activities, and Tom gives some clarifications from our previous episode on "Letting Go." We also have our "manly morsel" segment (it's always been called that), talking about Jacob's shame of Grubhub and what Ryan should do on his upcoming long train ride.

We then dive into our discussion on emotional attachment. It's a callback to a previous episode on emotional dependency (or "emodep," though Ryan doesn't exactly like that nickname). We differentiate between "dependency" and "attachment" and share both our positive and negative experiences in relationship with other men.

Our current podcast production schedule is one public episode and one private episode per month, the latter available exclusively to our patrons on Patreon. Pledging even $1/month grants you access to The YOBaLOGUE, our 30-minute bonus podcast that features listener feedback, bloopers, one “brother beat” segment, and other cut content from this episode.

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As always, we thank our YOBBERS — financial backers of Your Other Brothers who supply our show with phenomenal content. We couldn’t produce a podcast twice monthly without our faithful YOBBERS! Your support and contributions mean so much.

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Ask us a question, comment on this EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT episode, give us feedback, or tell us a story! We feature listener calls on The YOBaLOGUE, and we look forward to continuing this episode’s epilogue/dialogue with our listeners.

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Enjoy our EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT episode! And don’t forget to comment on our website: How have you experienced attachment with other men, both healthily and unhealthily? Have you seen an unhealthy attachment in one friendship effect a healthier one in another?

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049: Letting Go

049: Letting Go

May 10, 2019

Pull up a chair as Tom talks about the recent decision to remove our first 39 podcast episodes.

Join Tom, Ryan, Jacob, and Dean for a vulnerable conversation on letting go. Letting go of people, letting go of the past, and letting go of the future. Because if we can't let go of old things, how can we ever let new things in?

Before we dive into the nitty-gritty, we talk about Tom's Lenten "masturbation cleanse," his recent trip to a monastery, the "perfect friend date," and possibly rebranding our new hit intro segment, "The Brother Beat"?

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As always, we thank our YOBBERS — financial backers of Your Other Brothers who supply our show with phenomenal content. We couldn’t produce a podcast twice monthly without our faithful YOBBERS! Your support and contributions mean so much.

You can now call YOB! Call and leave us a message anytime at 706.389.8009.

Ask us a question, comment on this LETTING GO episode, give us feedback, or tell us a story! We feature listener calls on The YOBaLOGUE, and we look forward to continuing this episode’s epilogue/dialogue with our listeners.

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Enjoy our LETTING GO episode! And don’t forget to comment on our podcast episode page.

What's something difficult you've had to let go of? What newness did your letting go allow in? What would you call the "Brother Beat" segment?

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048: More Intimacy

048: More Intimacy

April 12, 2019

What happens when intimacy with another fails to fulfill or runs out altogether? Can we ever ask for more intimacy? Can we trust again when intimacy is lost?

Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob in the second of our two-part discussion on intimacy. We revisit last month's episode with an insightful listener comment about spiritual intimacy as well as a response on same-sex intimacy from one of our straight male listeners!

We share more of our most meaningful intimacy stories, including how one particular moment with Ryan and Jacob is one for Tom's intimacy "trophy case." We also start the episode with some "brother beats" on fatherhood and ... underwear! What could be more fittingly intimate?

Our current podcast production schedule is one public episode and one private episode per month, the latter available exclusively to our patrons on Patreon. Pledging even $1/month grants you access to The YOBaLOGUE, our 30-minute bonus podcast that features listener feedback, bloopers, one "brother beat" segment, and other cut content from this episode.

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As always, we thank our YOBBERS — financial backers of Your Other Brothers who supply our show with phenomenal content. We couldn’t produce a podcast twice monthly without our faithful YOBBERS! Your support and contributions mean so much.

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Ask us a question, comment on this MORE INTIMACY episode, give us feedback, or tell us a story! We feature listener calls on The YOBaLOGUE, and we look forward to continuing this episode’s epilogue/dialogue with our listeners.

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How have you seen healthy intimacy either cross boundaries or disintegrate altogether? Have you lost any hope for future intimacy with another?

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047: Intimacy

047: Intimacy

March 15, 2019

Intimacy is scary, and intimacy is vulnerable. Intimacy can be shared or rejected. Intimacy is special and sacred, and intimacy is everyday. Intimacy is sexual and emotional, physical and spiritual.

Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob in the first of a two-part deep dive into intimacy. The brothers define intimacy, likening it to a fire, discussing the differences and nuances between intimacy and vulnerability. They also talk about their first forays into intimacy many years ago and what the cornerstone of their most intimate relationships has been.

The episode opens with some banter about last month's #WeirdJesus episode, along with some "brother beats" on fasting for Lent and something called the "heart-f***"??

Our current podcast production schedule is one public episode and one private episode per month, the latter available exclusively to our patrons on Patreon. Pledging even $1/month grants you access to The YOBaLOGUE, our 30-minute bonus podcast that features listener feedback, bloopers, one "brother beat" segment, and other cut content from this episode.

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As always, we thank our YOBBERS — financial backers of Your Other Brothers who supply our show with phenomenal content. We couldn't produce a podcast twice monthly without our faithful YOBBERS! Your support and contributions mean so much.

You can now call YOB! Call and leave us a message anytime at 706.389.8009. Ask us a question, comment on this INTIMACY episode, give us feedback, or tell us a story! We feature listener calls on The YOBaLOGUE, and we look forward to continuing this episode’s epilogue/dialogue with our listeners.

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Enjoy our INTIMACY episode! And don’t forget to comment on our podcast episode page.

How do you experience healthy same-sex intimacy? When did you first experience intimacy with a friend?

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046: Church Inclusion

046: Church Inclusion

February 15, 2019

Many SSA/LGBT+ people struggle to find inclusion in the church — a safe place at least, and a nurturing place at best.

This episode, we bring a very special guest onto the show. His name is Matt, who among other claims to fame (which we waste little time diving into), also pastors at Ryan's church and oversees Ryan's ministry to non-straight people, Intersect. We dive into their ministry relationship and overarching friendship, also discussing with Dean issues of sexuality, singleness, safety, and nurture of sexual minorities in the church.

And we also laugh a lot about Matt's #WeirdJesus voice. It's a big episode.

You can listen to plenty of bonus content and bloopers from this episode on the upcoming episode of our second (secret) podcast, The YOBaLOGUE!

Our current podcast production schedule is one public episode and one private episode per month, the latter available exclusively to our patrons on Patreon. Pledging even $1/month allows you access to The YOBaLOGUE, our 30-minute bonus podcast that features listener feedback, bloopers, one brother beat, and other cut content from this episode.

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As always, we thank our YOBBERS — financial backers of Your Other Brothers who supply our show with phenomenal content. We couldn’t produce a podcast twice monthly without our faithful YOBBERS! Your support and contributions mean so much.

You can now call YOB! Call and leave us a message anytime at 706.389.8009. Ask us a question, comment on this CHURCH INCLUSION episode, give us feedback, or tell us a story! We feature listener calls on The YOBaLOGUE, and we look forward to continuing this episode’s epilogue/dialogue with our listeners.

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Enjoy our CHURCH INCLUSION episode! And don’t forget to comment below: how has the church included (or not included) you? What do you want/need from the church, and what do you have to offer the church?

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045: Self-Care

045: Self-Care

January 18, 2019

Is self-care selfish? How do we commit to healthy practices across all areas of our lives, not just physical ones, as men?

Join Tom, Ryan, and Dean for a healthy discussion on self-care to start the new year! We talk about new year resolutions, one-word themes, and bring back good ole SPERM counts (spiritual, physical, emotional, relational, mental) for checking in with one another. There's a lot of diversity in the room as we talk about what good self-care means to each of us.

We also add another letter to our SPERM count acronym and talk about what good sexual health looks like as men.

We continue our new intro segment, "The Brother Beat," in which Dean brings a meaningful beat about corporate worship, and Ryan, a slightly less serious one about our favorite jokes. You can listen to Tom's "PG-15" beat on the upcoming episode of our bonus podcast, The YOBaLOGUE!

Our current podcast production schedule is one public episode and one private episode per month, the latter available exclusively to our patrons on Patreon. Pledging even $1/month allows you access to The YOBaLOGUE, our 30-minute bonus podcast that features listener feedback, bloopers, one brother beat, and other cut content from this episode.

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As always, we thank our YOBBERS — financial backers of Your Other Brothers who supply our show with phenomenal content. We couldn’t produce a podcast twice monthly without our faithful YOBBERS! Your support and contributions mean so much.

You can now call YOB! Call and leave us a message anytime at 706.389.8009. Ask us a question, comment on this JESUS episode, give us feedback, or tell us a story! We feature listener calls on The YOBaLOGUE, and we look forward to continuing this episode’s epilogue/dialogue with our listeners.

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How do you practice good self-care? What's your current SPERM count? What does sexual health look like for you?

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044: Jesus

044: Jesus

December 14, 2018

Who is Jesus? What role does Jesus play in our stories and our struggles?

Join Tom, Ryan, and first-timer Kevin for a long overdue discussion on the cornerstone of this entire community: Jesus. We talk about our individual beginnings with Jesus, our favorite Jesus stories, and how Jesus intersects our sexuality and masculinity.

We also make a startling revelation about the viral "Vintage Jesus" videos from many years past.

We meet Kevin to start the show, and we continue our new intro segment: "The Brother Beat." In which we dive into our favorite Christmas movies and play another round of the map game, shouting out our listeners from around the country and around the world.

Our current podcast production schedule is one public episode and one private episode per month, the latter available only to our patrons on Patreon. Pledging even $1/month allows you access to this bonus podcast, The YOBaLOGUE, featuring listener feedback, bloopers, and other cut content from this episode.

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As always, we thank our YOBBERS — financial backers of Your Other Brothers who supply our show with phenomenal content. We couldn’t produce a podcast twice monthly without our faithful YOBBERS! Your support and contributions mean so much.

You can now call YOB! Call and leave us a message anytime at 706.389.8009. Ask us a question, comment on this JESUS episode, give us feedback, or tell us a story! We feature listener calls on The YOBaLOGUE, and we look forward to continuing this episode’s epilogue/dialogue with our listeners.

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Enjoy our JESUS episode! And don't forget to comment on our podcast episode page: Who is Jesus to you? What is your favorite Jesus story?

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043: Body Image

043: Body Image

November 9, 2018

How do men experience body image compared to women? On a physical level and an emotional level, what does it mean to possess a healthy male body image? And how do our sexualities tie into our body image?

Join Tom, Ryan, and first-timer Jacob for a discussion on male body image. We talk insecurities about body shapes, friendship desirability, penis size, balding, and our innate sense of masculinity.

We also premiere a new intro segment, "The Brother Beat"! Or something. Where you can listen to us talk about bathrooms for 20 minutes.

Our new podcast production schedule is one public episode and one private episode per month, the latter available only to our patrons on Patreon. Pledging even $1/month allows you access to The YOBaLOGUE, featuring listener feedback, bloopers, and other cut content from this bonus episode.

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As always, we thank our YOBBERS — financial backers of Your Other Brothers who supply our show with phenomenal content. We couldn’t produce a podcast twice monthly without our faithful YOBBERS! Your support and contributions mean so much.

You can now call YOB! Call and leave us a message anytime at 706.389.8009. Ask us a question, comment on this BODY IMAGE episode, give us feedback, or tell us a story! We feature listener calls on The YOBaLOGUE, and we look forward to continuing this episode’s epilogue/dialogue with our listeners.

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Enjoy our BODY IMAGE episode! And don’t forget to comment your body image stories on our podcast episode page: how have you struggled with male body image, physical or otherwise, and how have you seen personal growth?

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042: Generations

042: Generations

October 12, 2018

How have our culture -- and we ourselves -- understood and expressed issues of sexuality across the generations? Join Tom, Ryan, and Marshall for a conversation on these varying generational perspectives: Tom and Ryan as millennials and Marshall as a baby boomer.

We discuss how the generations have addressed sexuality and "coming out" over the decades, accessibility to pornography and promiscuous outlets, the "gay" identity and male-on-male cuddling, and the biggest thing in culture we'd like to see change with the next generation.

We also celebrate our 50,000th podcast download and a new Patreon tier being accomplished! Stay tuned to the end of this episode for a bonus YOBaLOGUE segment if you're not already a patron.

Our new production schedule is one public episode and one private episode per month, the latter available only to our patrons on Patreon. Pledging even $1/month allows you access to The YOBaLOGUE, featuring listener feedback, bloopers, and other cut content from this bonus episode.

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As always, we thank our YOBBERS — financial backers of Your Other Brothers who supply our show with phenomenal content. We couldn’t produce a podcast twice monthly without our faithful YOBBERS! Your support means so much.

You can now call YOB! Call and leave us a message anytime at 706.389.8009. Ask us a question, comment on this GENERATIONS episode, give us feedback, or tell us a story! We feature listener calls on The YOBaLOGUE, and we look forward to continuing this episode’s epilogue/dialogue with our listeners.

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Enjoy our GENERATIONS episode! And don’t forget to comment on our podcast episode page.

What generation do you hail from? How have you experienced sexuality and "coming out" from within your generational context? What are your thoughts on the gay label, cuddling, and anything else discussed this episode? Also: do you have any guest traditions at your home you'd like to share? Pull up a chair, and tell us a story.

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