Your Other Brothers Podcast
072: Holiday Spectacular!

072: Holiday Spectacular!

December 18, 2020

It's our last episode of 2020! AKA the most phenomenal year that ever was. Join Tom, Ryan, Jacob, and returning guest Nate for a fun, nonspecifically topical, yet holiday-themed episode with discussions like our favorite (and least favorite) Christmas carols and when is the proper time to start (and stop) playing Christmas music.

We also dive a little deeper by determining the identities of our own personal ghosts of Christmases past, present, and future and what lessons we’d learn from them, along with our individual recaps of 2020 as we fill in the blank after the hashtag: #2020WasTheYear.

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What's your favorite and least favorite Christmas carol? When should Christmas music start and stop? Who would be your own personal ghosts of Christmas past, present, and future, and what lessons would they teach you? And finally, how would you complete the hashtag, #2020WasTheYear ?

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071: Intentional Community

071: Intentional Community

December 4, 2020

Pieter Valk joins us for a discussion on monastic or intentional community, with particular regard to his Nashville Family of Brothers. We talk about the logistics of living under one roof with fellow single celibate male believers: what happens every week, who's in charge, how do you join, and how long do you stay?

We also dive deeper into the practice of living intentionally under the same roof with other men: the joys and the challenges. What do you do if you develop emotional or sexual attractions for other men in your longterm living space, or how do you even take a chance on intentional community to begin with if you've been wounded by communities in the past?

Join Tom, Ryan, Jacob, and our special guest Pieter for a conversation that's gaining traction in our little "Side B" community: sharing a home and a future with fellow believers of the same sex, not just for a season or two, but for the long haul. Through every season.

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We just launched a monthly BOOK CLUB for our $15/mo Patreon supporters! We recently gathered to discuss Henri Nouwen’s The Return of the Prodigal Son, and we’re reading C.S. Lewis’s The Horse and His Boy for December. If you’re already signed up for this tier, get to reading! And if you still wish to join the fun, there’s still plenty of time to become a patron today.

We're also launching a digital retreat for our faithful supporters next weekend, and we'd love to have you there! All the info can also be found on our Patreon.

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Have you taken part in intentional community, and if so how did that play out? What intrigues you, scares you, or otherwise prompts any emotional reactions to this notion of intentional or monastic community? Do you see shared vocational singleness as a viable option for the rest of your life?

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070: Attraction

070: Attraction

November 20, 2020

What even is attraction? Is it only physical, sexual, and romantic? Or is it something more? Something that can be platonic yet intimate, something more nuanced and layered?

Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a discussion on attraction: the varying types of attraction, the difference between physical and sexual attraction, and whether it’s okay to experience attraction – even romantic – for your friends.

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We just launched a monthly BOOK CLUB for our $15/mo Patreon supporters! We recently gathered to discuss The Velvet Rage for October, and we're now reading Henri Nouwen's The Return of the Prodigal Son for November. If you’re already signed up for this tier, get to reading! And if you still wish to join the fun, there’s still plenty of time to become a patron today.

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How do you define attraction? Do you experience any form of attraction for your friends, and if so how do you maintain proper boundaries or communication about said attraction with them?

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069: Fetishes

069: Fetishes

November 6, 2020

For years a certain topic has been on the YOBcast radar. But it would be a deep dive like no other. Finally, we're taking the time to talk about sexual fetishes.

Disclaimer: this episode may not be for everyone as we list some fetishes in an effort to give context to the topic. Listen at your own discretion.

Join Tom, Dean, and Matt for our long anticipated conversation on fetishes. We start with the word's definitions and fascinating linguistic origins, and we acknowledge whether we have any fetishes. We then talk about the roots of our fetishes, if they even exist, and keeping proper boundaries in talking about our fetishes along with any attached shame.

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We just launched a monthly BOOK CLUB for our $15/mo Patreon supporters! We recently gathered to discuss The Velvet Rage for October, and we're now reading Henri Nouwen's The Return of the Prodigal Son for November. If you’re already signed up for this tier, get to reading! And if you still wish to join the fun, there’s still plenty of time to become a patron today.

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Without spelling them out for us, do you have any fetishes? Are you able to trace any of your fetishes' origins, and do any of them bring you shame or idolization? Are you able to talk about your secret fantasies or fixations with other people?

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068: Coming Out

068: Coming Out

October 24, 2020

October is LGBT History Month, and October 11th is National Coming Out Day. What better time than now to share some of our coming out stories?

Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a discussion on their coming out journeys, including how we first came out to ourselves, to God, and ultimately to others. We also give some coming out advice to those who are selectively out or still in the closet altogether.

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We just launched a monthly BOOK CLUB for our $15/mo Patreon supporters! We recently gathered to discuss The Velvet Rage for October, and we're reading Henri Nouwen's The Return of the Prodigal Son for November. If you’re already signed up for this tier, get to reading! And if you still wish to join the fun, there’s still plenty of time to become a patron today.

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067: “Side A” Friends Q&A

067: “Side A” Friends Q&A

October 9, 2020

We're back to answer some amazing YOBBERS questions from our "Side A" Friends podcast from a few episodes back. Join Tom, Dean, and Matt for another deep dive into the world of "Side A" friendships: that is, those friendships with fellow LGBT+ believers who hold an affirming view of same-sex sexual relationships.

Some questions we tackle in this follow-up episode include: Would you go to a Side A friend's gay wedding? How would you pursue Side B friendship if you were the one who is Side A? And how do we apply Paul's words on sexual immorality in 1 Corinthians 5 to the modern church?

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We’re launching a brand new monthly BOOK CLUB for our $15/mo Patreon supporters! We’re reading The Velvet Rage for October. If you’re already signed up for this tier, get to reading! And if you still wish to join the fun, there’s still plenty of time to become a patron today.

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What are some blessings or challenges you face in pursuing or building "Side A" friendships? Do you have any other questions (or answers) on this topic? Tell us a story if you'd be so bold . . .

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066: Manliness

066: Manliness

September 25, 2020

When do you feel manly? When do you feel not at all manly? Is "manliness" even something worth pursuing?

Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a return to one of our "classic" episodes in which we discuss opening pickle jars, killing cockroaches, camping out, working out, owning a home, and so much more on this simultaneously shallow and deep topic of manliness. We also dive into the deep end and discuss childhood wounds from PE and exclusions from men's events -- things that affected our budding sense of masculine belonging.

Finally, we can't help ourselves from diving into a little book that's made the rounds in Christian men's circles ... for better or worse or maybe a little of both ... Wild at Heart.

How does "manliness" differ from "masculinity," and what examples from Scripture can we point to and lean on as we pursue healthy masculinity?

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We're launching a brand new monthly BOOK CLUB for our $15/mo Patreon supporters! We're reading The Velvet Rage for October. If you're already signed up for this tier, get to reading! And if you still wish to join the fun, there's still plenty of time to become a patron today.

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When do you feel the most or least manly? Is manliness something you want to pursue? Tell us a story if you'd be so bold . . .

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065: Loving LGBT+ People

065: Loving LGBT+ People

September 11, 2020

Bill Henson of Lead Them Home, Posture Shift, and Guiding Families joins Tom, Ryan, and Dean for a special guest discussion on loving LGBT+ people – both inside and outside the Church. How do we better understand LGBT-identifying people or those who experience same-sex attraction (SSA), and how do we love them well?

We learn some of Bill's story from a business background to full-time LGBT+ outreach and ministry as he tells us about LTH, including the origin story (and challenges) of the name. He also shares why LTH settled on using "LGBT+" in their messaging, as opposed to "LGBTQ+" or any SSA-related terminology.

Tom and Dean jump in with some of their own stories from attending and participating in LTH's Posture Shift events. Finally, Bill talks to us about justice initiatives and why justice should be an important issue for the Church.

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064: Celibacy

064: Celibacy

August 28, 2020

It only took us 64 episodes to talk about celibacy! Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a discussion on sex, singleness, marriage, healthy sexuality, and this mystical notion of "calling."

How many guys in our YOBBERS group feel "called to celibacy"? We dive into our very scientific poll results and answer the question ourselves.

We also look to Scripture to round out our celibacy discussion: from Genesis (what does it mean for man to be "alone"?) to Jesus' bluntness on marriage and eunuchs to Paul's charge for singleness, along with his (and our) thoughts on those "burning with passion."

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Do you feel called to celibacy? Or to marriage? Or do you find yourself somewhere in the middle: open, content, or lost? Tell us a story, if you’d be so bold . . .

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063: The Sex Talk

063: The Sex Talk

August 14, 2020

We're talking about "the talk"! You know, "The Birds and the Bees" (whatever that even means). Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a trip down memory lane as we recount our memories (or lacks thereof) involving the sex talk with our parents, along with sex education at our schools.

How many folks do, in fact, actually receive the sex talk as a kid? Our very scientific poll results from our secret YOBBERS group may surprise you.

We also zoom out for a broader view of sex: how did our family upbringing and culture surrounding sex affect our thoughts and feelings on sex today? And what do we think of God's creating of sex?

We hope you enjoy our latest episode.

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Did you receive the sex talk as a kid? Did your family upbringing and culture surrounding sex affect your thoughts, feelings, and actions toward sex as an adult? Tell us a story, if you'd be so bold.

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