Your Other Brothers
CC030: Tom & Matt Process Grief

CC030: Tom & Matt Process Grief

June 5, 2021

Tom welcomes back longtime YOB blogger, podcaster, and resident "sexpert" Matt for a deep dive into death, grief, and how these difficult seasons either shape us or harden us. They also give some love to fellow YOB brother Dean, the bizarre adult playground-museum that is Meow Wolf, and Tom's (almost 40-year-old) virginity.

LINKS

Theme music: "Growing Pains" by Layup, 100% clearance through Musicbed.

YC080:”Side B” Objections

YC080:”Side B” Objections

May 29, 2021

"Don't call yourself gay"; "don't have gay friends"; "pray harder for God to change you"; "act more manly"; "keep dating women until you find the right one." As sexual minorities, we often face objections from within our own faith, from fellow believers -- be they peers, parents, or pastors. How do we respond when we face objections for our sexuality? How do we move forward through the resistance?

Join Tom and YOBcast newcomers Pastor Ben and Pastor Will as we dive into some common "Side B" objections. And as we reaffirm to one another and to you that you are not alone in whatever spiritual objections you face.

ANNOUNCEMENTS & LINKS

Listen to our new "Heart of a Brother" playlist with songs embodying our community -- on Spotify and now on YouTube!

Will's blog, "We Need a New Masculine Narrative."

COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE

What objections from fellow believers have you faced with regard to your sexuality? How have you handled these objections, or do you still struggle to overcome them?

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YC079: Love Languages & Sexuality

YC079: Love Languages & Sexuality

May 22, 2021

How does our sexuality impact the way we give and receive love from others, particularly other men? Why do quality time and physical touch rank high in our community? And where is the line between expressing the love we need and manipulating others with our love language of choice?

Join Tom, Ryan, and Aaron as we examine the five languages like never before through the lens of our sexuality: acts of service, gifts, words of affirmation, quality time, and physical touch.

ANNOUNCEMENTS & LINKS

Take the official 5 love languages quiz that we discuss on the show!

Tom's blog about receiving meaningful love with a friend in the park.

Listen to our new playlist featuring songs embodying our community! Search “Heart of a Brother” by Your Other Brothers on Spotify, and follow us as we add new songs to our playlist.

COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE

What are your primary love languages, and which ones don't land as easily? Have you manipulated others by any of the love languages, and how have you seen your love languages change across seasons of your life?

Comment on our podcast episode page! We'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode.

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You can call us 24/7 at 706.389.8009. We’d be thrilled to hear from you and feature your voicemail on an upcoming episode! Prefer to get in touch privately? Shoot us an email: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com

You can also write to us at:

Your Other Brothers

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Asheville, NC 28802

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CC029: Tom & Keegan Encourage the Lurkers!

CC029: Tom & Keegan Encourage the Lurkers!

May 14, 2021

YOB's resident community welcomer, Keegan, joins Tom to talk about being a #LurkerNoLonger. He recounts the backstory of a voicemail he left for the YOBcast several episodes ago, and Tom’s heart soars over stories of brotherhood and beach bonfires from his former home in southern California. And the guys can't get away from this episode without talking about Keegan's now iconic welcome GIF for new community members – especially after it slaughtered Ryan's hair in March's "YOB Madness" bracket.

LINKS

Theme music: "Growing Pains" by Layup, 100% clearance through Musicbed.

CC028: Tom & Eugene Go to Cuddle Corner!

CC028: Tom & Eugene Go to Cuddle Corner!

May 7, 2021

Tom welcomes back YOB’s resident artist and cuddling aficionado, Eugene, for a discussion on physical boundaries between friends. They reference both Tom’s latest blog on crossing boundaries and Eugene’s latest blog on the nature vs. nurture debate! Additionally, Tom reveals some behind the scenes magic for rectifying the technical snafu that happened during last year’s ConvoCast recording with Eugene. And the guys bounce around a new name for what to call a fan of YOB who isn’t quite a YOBBER (yet)!

LINKS

Theme music: "Growing Pains" by Layup, 100% clearance through Musicbed.

YC078: Masturbation

YC078: Masturbation

April 24, 2021

Is masturbation sinful? What if it's done without lusting? Is masturbation "solo-sex" or "self-sex," and does it breech God's design for sexuality? What does the Bible have to say, if anything, about masturbation?

Masturbation isn't an oft discussed topic in Christian circles, with many folks describing their childhood discovery of masturbation as if they had been the first ones ever to discover such a secret bodily pleasure. As a result of this secrecy, masturbation has produced a lot of shame for men and women.

Regardless where you land on this issue, we want to break down this shame. Join Tom, Ryan, and Matt as we discuss a classic episode redone and share our vantage points on masturbation. We hope this episode gives a little more light to bless you in this journey.

ANNOUNCEMENTS & LINKS

We finally have a store! Head over to our new store page and get the sleek new “You Are Not Alone” diner mug, along with YOB stickers, a YOB magnet, and Tom’s first book.

We also have a new playlist featuring songs embodying our community! Search “Heart of a Brother” by Your Other Brothers on Spotify, and give us a follow as we continue to add new songs to our playlist.

Follow us on TikTok and see what in the Side B Christianity is going on!

Check out Matt's other appearances on the YOBcast, including our episodes on gay sex and hookups, and fetishes.

COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE

Keeping your comments PG-13 or below, how did you discover masturbation? Did you experience this topic discussed at home or in school? Where have you "landed" on the morality of masturbation, or is it a grey area?

Comment on our podcast episode page! We'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode.

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You can call us 24/7 at 706.389.8009. We’d be thrilled to hear from you and feature your voicemail on an upcoming episode! Prefer to get in touch privately? Shoot us an email: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com

You can also write to us at:

Your Other Brothers

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Asheville, NC 28802

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CC027: Tom & Will Recite Their Favorite Poetry!

CC027: Tom & Will Recite Their Favorite Poetry!

April 16, 2021

Will Cooper makes his debut audio appearance on the YOB Podcast Network! He traces his decision to become a pastor all the way back to childhood, and he reminisces about coming out to his church early into his joining YOB. He also brings some of his favorite poetry to share, including a poem from his YOB namesake William Cowper, as Tom also shares his favorite poem.

Enjoy the episode! And always remember: you are not alone. Even the sparrow…stays at home.

LINKS

Theme music: "Growing Pains" by Layup, 100% clearance through Musicbed.

YC077: Church Angst

YC077: Church Angst

April 10, 2021

Many folks in our community bear wounds and baggage from churches, be it local bodies or broader denominations. What do we do with our church angst? How should we rightly frame our motivations or expectations for attending church as gay or SSA-identifying folks?

Join Tom, Ryan, and Aaron as he makes his YOBcast debut, as we share our journeys of finding, connecting, and serving in the local church -- with all the hope and angst in between. We hope you enjoy the episode!

ANNOUNCEMENTS & LINKS

We finally have a store! Head over to our new store page and get the sleek new “You Are Not Alone” diner mug, along with YOB stickers, a YOB magnet, and Tom’s first book.

We also have a new playlist featuring songs embodying our community! Search “Heart of a Brother” by Your Other Brothers on Spotify, and give us a follow as we continue to add new songs to our playlist.

Check out Aaron's debut appearance on the ConvoCast!

COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE

What's your current level of hope or angst with the local church? Do you go to church, find connection in the church, and/or serve in the church?

Comment on our podcast episode page! We'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode.

GET IN TOUCH

You can call us 24/7 at 706.389.8009. We’d be thrilled to hear from you and feature your voicemail on an upcoming episode! Prefer to get in touch privately? Shoot us an email: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com

You can also write to us at:

Your Other Brothers

P.O. Box 843

Asheville, NC 28802

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CC026: You & the Lord on Good Friday 2021

CC026: You & the Lord on Good Friday 2021

April 2, 2021

It is finished.

YC076: Coming Out to Your Brother w/ Andy Zuniga

YC076: Coming Out to Your Brother w/ Andy Zuniga

March 26, 2021

We follow up on one of our most downloaded episodes of all-time with a sequel of sorts! After learning Jacob's coming out story with his big brother Nate, we invite Tom's younger brother Andy onto the show to learn Tom's coming out story.

Did Andy ever suspect anything about Tom's sexuality? How can straight brothers best support their gay brothers? And what does Andy think about his big brother doing this whole YOB thing?

Join Tom and Jacob, along with their brothers Andy and Nate, for a brotherly deep-dive like no other. We also have some football talk, because straight guys. We hope you enjoy the episode!

ANNOUNCEMENTS & LINKS

We finally have a store! Head over to our new store page and get the sleek new "You Are Not Alone" diner mug, along with YOB stickers, a YOB magnet, and Tom's first book.

We also have a new playlist featuring songs embodying our community! Search "Heart of a Brother" by Your Other Brothers on Spotify, and give us a follow as we continue to add new songs to our playlist.

Dive back into the archive and listen to our original coming out to your brother episode with Jacob and Nate.

Check out Andy's first appearance on the ConvoCast!

COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE

Have you come out to a brother or other siblings? How did those conversations go, and how have they impacted your relationships in the present day? Do you wish to come out to your brother or other siblings some day?

Comment on our podcast episode page! We'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode.

GET IN TOUCH

You can call us 24/7 at 706.389.8009. We’d be thrilled to hear from you and feature your voicemail on an upcoming episode! Prefer to get in touch privately? Shoot us an email: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com

You can also write to us at:

Your Other Brothers

P.O. Box 843

Asheville, NC 28802

SUPPORT YOB

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FOLLOW YOB

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