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Friday Sep 22, 2023
Friday Sep 22, 2023
We finish our SPANNING THE SPECTRUM sexuality series by learning more of Tom’s story as Erin returns to take over hosting duties! Tom shares a new term he’s still feeling out for himself: androsexual, or an attraction to masculinity. He shares about his attraction for mostly straight men, going all the way back to another boy in first grade. He also discusses being on the asexual spectrum and the shame of “missing out” on such a significant part of the human experience. To close this episode, Tom and Erin look back on the previous 9 episodes of this series, giving love to all our wonderful contributors!
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ Tom's first book, Struggle Central: Quarter-Life Confessions of a Messed Up Christian
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 063: Matt is Gay and Christian, But Not a Gay Christian
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 064: Marshall Prefers Not to Sexually Identify as Anything
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 065: Alex Explains His Two-Way Tension as a Bisexual Christian
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 066: Ben is Queer in a "Mixed-Orientation Marriage"?
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 067: Adam is Cross-Oriented, a Heteroromantic Homosexual
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 068: Keegan Sees the Beauty Beyond One Type of Person as a Bisexual
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 069: Jesse Falls Under the Asexual Umbrella as Demisexual
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 070: Matthew Finally Comes Out as a Plain Old Gay
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 071: Erin Resonates with Queer Culture and Pansexuality
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ How do you feel about this term, "androsexual"? What episode or story resonated most with you in this series? Did you learn anything new about sexuality?
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➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Saturday Sep 09, 2023
Saturday Sep 09, 2023
Erin returns to help us SPAN THE SPECTRUM of our community from a woman's perspective! She updates us on her developments with Your Other Sisters, including a pivotal experience at Revoice this summer where she met some prospective YOS members as well as fellow YOB members for the first time. Sexuality aside, Erin discusses a general resonance with queer culture and then explains how her sexuality most aligns with pansexuality: an attraction for people regardless of gender. She also discloses being somewhere on the asexual (ace) spectrum. Erin shares some of her journey of self-discovery with sexuality, growing up in purity culture as a woman, living in Cambodia doing missions work, eventually dating men, and getting back to America on the other side of a pandemic. It's our penultimate episode of this summer sexuality series as we soon wrap things up with our finale!
Erin's Pirates of the Caribbean costume:
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ Erin's first ConvoCast: Tom & Erin Want Your Other Sisters to be a Thing!
➡️ Erin's guest blog: "How Your Other Brothers Has Impacted Me as a Woman"
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Do you resonate more with queer culture than straight culture? How did purity culture shape your sexuality and sense of self-worth? Does pansexuality also best fit your sexuality?
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➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Friday Sep 01, 2023
Friday Sep 01, 2023
Matthew makes his first appearance on the podcast after writing a couple guest blogs for us! He currently serves on YOB's leadership team and is, in his own words: "just a plain old gay." He's been active in the YOB community for years, but why did it take so long for him to share his story publicly? He opens up about his long road of coming out to himself before he could ever come out to other people, referencing his Enneagram Three shame with authenticity and difficult emotions. He talks about taking metaphorical trips to the desert to lament his dreams of marriage, family, ministry, purpose, and influence, and he also beams about his sexuality's blessings, including a moment leading worship at his first YOBBERS retreat in 2021. Join us as we continue SPANNING THE SPECTRUM of sexuality in our community! We hope you feel heard and seen, all you plain old gays out there.
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ Matthew's first blog, "My Gay Secret Led Me to Becoming an Other Brother"
➡️ Matthew's second blog, "As Spring Melts the Shame of My Sexuality"
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Do you feel unremarkable as a "plain old gay"? Where have you seen God lessen or break your shame, and use your sexuality for His glory?
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MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Friday Aug 25, 2023
Friday Aug 25, 2023
Jesse of the great City of Oaks returns to discuss his sexuality as someone on the asexual (ace) spectrum, identifying as demisexual: someone who only develops sexual feelings when a strong emotional bond is also present. He goes into the difficulties of growing up different in a sexually charged culture, as well as the blessings of being a source of safety with his guy friends. We also dive into types of attraction, the repulsion of sex, and the chore of masturbation in this jam-packed, in-person episode!
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ Jesse's Enneagram ConvoCast: Jesse Can Summon Two Hours of Fun as a One!
➡️ Jubilee's YouTube video: Do All Asexuals Think the Same?
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Do you also identify as asexual or demisexual? What's similar about your story and what's different?
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MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Saturday Aug 12, 2023
Saturday Aug 12, 2023
Keegan returns to the podcast after two and a half years to give another perspective on bisexuality in this SPANNING THE SPECTRUM sexuality series. He shares what resonated with Alex's bi episode, like the concept of "bi panic," along with how he contrasted with the conversation as well, such as feeling like a "minority of a minority" in our YOB community. He tells his story of coming to grips with bisexuality, including how YOB played a role in this revelation. Tom and Keegan also bond over recently hanging out in person for the first time!
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ Keegan's first ConvoCast: "Tom & Keegan Encourage the Lurkers!"
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Are you bisexual? What resonates or contrasts with your story? Do you feel like a "minority of a minority" in Side B circles?
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MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Friday Jul 21, 2023
Friday Jul 21, 2023
We continue SPANNING THE SPECTRUM of sexual identity in our community as first-time guest Adam opens up about being cross-oriented: physically and sexually attracted to men, and romantically and emotionally attracted to women. He also describes this orientation as "heteroromantic homosexual." We dive into the nuance of his unique orientation: why Adam doesn't identify as bisexual, and why Adam steers away from any association of "identity" to describe his orientation. We close the episode with the struggles and joys of being cross-oriented: how Adam sometimes wonders where he belongs (even within YOB as he shares an uncomfortable experience from his first retreat), and how Adam can empathize with many types of people (serving him well as an Enneagram Two).
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Do you resonate with being cross-oriented? How have you pieced together your sexuality in this journey of self-discovery?
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MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Friday Jul 14, 2023
Friday Jul 14, 2023
Ben joins Tom in-studio for a conversation on his sexual identity as we continue "Spanning the Spectrum" this summer. Ben shares about being married to his best friend, a woman, for the last 15 years and why he opts for queer over bi as his primary identifier. He discloses some of the challenges in this identification as he explains (or defends) himself with certain Christians. He also reveals the joys of his orientation, including how he and his wife have opened their home as a refuge for other queer folks.
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Do you also identify as queer, and how has your journey taken you this identification? What's your greatest struggle as well as your deepest joy in your sexuality?
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MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Saturday Jul 08, 2023
Saturday Jul 08, 2023
Alex returns to discuss his sexual identity as a bisexual Christian in this "Spanning the Spectrum" ConvoCast series! Alex answers whether he's felt like a "minority of a minority" in our YOB community, and he shares his long journey coming to terms with his bisexuality -- both with himself and the Holy Spirit. He dispels the myth that he and all other bi people are 50-50 attracted both to men and women at all times and in all seasons of life. He shares why it isn't necessarily "easier" being attracted to both sexes rather than exclusively attracted to the same sex as a Side B person. And we close the episode as Alex shares the joys and blessings of being a bisexual Christian, building an empathy for all kinds of people.
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ Alex's Love, Victor ConvoCast
➡️ Alex's Enneagram 4 ConvoCast
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Are you also a bisexual Christian? What's your greatest struggle as well as your deepest joy in your sexuality?
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MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Friday Jun 23, 2023
Friday Jun 23, 2023
Marshall joins us as another "OG" contributor and cofounder of YOB to share his perspective on this "Spanning the Spectrum" sexual identity series. He shares why he doesn’t identify as gay or SSA despite only experiencing attraction for men. He also discusses a marriage conversation he once had with a woman he dated. He shares the time of his life that presented his greatest struggles with gay temptation, as well as the thing that’s brought him the most joy in his sexuality. Tom closes the conversation with a little surprise for Marshall in the form of a song!
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
- Owl City's "Field Notes": https://youtu.be/-LZ_xoHAQfk
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ How do you sexually identify, if you do?
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➡️ Marshall's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/marshall/
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📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009
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➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW
MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Saturday Jun 17, 2023
Saturday Jun 17, 2023
We kick off a new summer ConvoCast series exploring the diverse sexual identifications within our YOB community. We start with Matt who identifies as gay and Christian, but not those two identities together. He tells of his journey from "SSA" to gay and how he recently experienced feelings for a girl for the first time in his life. He shares about going to a source outside the Church to learn whether his sexual identification is as rigid as it seems.
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
- Matt's blog: "Why I Don't Call Myself a Gay Christian"
- Matt's blog: "So, I Told a Girl I Like Her"
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ How do you identify? Do you also resonate with the tension of identifying as a gay Christian?
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➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW
MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.