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Episodes
Friday Nov 06, 2020
Friday Nov 06, 2020
For years a certain topic has been on the YOBcast radar. But it would be a deep dive like no other. Finally, we're taking the time to talk about sexual fetishes.
Disclaimer: this episode may not be for everyone as we list some fetishes in an effort to give context to the topic. Listen at your own discretion.
Join Tom, Dean, and Matt for our long anticipated conversation on fetishes. We start with the word's definitions and fascinating linguistic origins, and we acknowledge whether we have any fetishes. We then talk about the roots of our fetishes, if they even exist, and keeping proper boundaries in talking about our fetishes along with any attached shame.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
- The Return of the Prodigal Son by Henri Nouwen
- Tom's blog: "The Fetish I Can't Talk About"
- YOBcast 057: Gay Sex & Hookups
- Jay Stringer's article: "What Your Sexual Fantasies (Might) Say About You, Part 1"
ANNOUNCEMENT
We just launched a monthly BOOK CLUB for our $15/mo Patreon supporters! We recently gathered to discuss The Velvet Rage for October, and we're now reading Henri Nouwen's The Return of the Prodigal Son for November. If you’re already signed up for this tier, get to reading! And if you still wish to join the fun, there’s still plenty of time to become a patron today.
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Without spelling them out for us, do you have any fetishes? Are you able to trace any of your fetishes' origins, and do any of them bring you shame or idolization? Are you able to talk about your secret fantasies or fixations with other people?
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Saturday Oct 24, 2020
Saturday Oct 24, 2020
October is LGBT History Month, and October 11th is National Coming Out Day. What better time than now to share some of our coming out stories?
Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a discussion on their coming out journeys, including how we first came out to ourselves, to God, and ultimately to others. We also give some coming out advice to those who are selectively out or still in the closet altogether.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
- The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs
- The Return of the Prodigal Son by Henri Nouwen
- Jacob's intro blog: "Fully Known and Fully Loved"
- Tom's YouTube video: "Coming Out to Myself – 14 Years Later"
ANNOUNCEMENT
We just launched a monthly BOOK CLUB for our $15/mo Patreon supporters! We recently gathered to discuss The Velvet Rage for October, and we're reading Henri Nouwen's The Return of the Prodigal Son for November. If you’re already signed up for this tier, get to reading! And if you still wish to join the fun, there’s still plenty of time to become a patron today.
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Have you had a distinct coming out experience? Are you selectively out to others or completely in the closet?
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Friday Oct 09, 2020
Friday Oct 09, 2020
We're back to answer some amazing YOBBERS questions from our "Side A" Friends podcast from a few episodes back. Join Tom, Dean, and Matt for another deep dive into the world of "Side A" friendships: that is, those friendships with fellow LGBT+ believers who hold an affirming view of same-sex sexual relationships.
Some questions we tackle in this follow-up episode include: Would you go to a Side A friend's gay wedding? How would you pursue Side B friendship if you were the one who is Side A? And how do we apply Paul's words on sexual immorality in 1 Corinthians 5 to the modern church?
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
- YOBcast Episode 062: "Side A" Friends
- YOBcast Episode 065: Loving LGBT+ People w/ Bill Henson
- Matt's post: "Straight Edge in a Gay World"
- The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs
- Leading a Church in a Time of Sexual Questioning by Bruce B. Miller
ANNOUNCEMENT
We’re launching a brand new monthly BOOK CLUB for our $15/mo Patreon supporters! We’re reading The Velvet Rage for October. If you’re already signed up for this tier, get to reading! And if you still wish to join the fun, there’s still plenty of time to become a patron today.
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What are some blessings or challenges you face in pursuing or building "Side A" friendships? Do you have any other questions (or answers) on this topic? Tell us a story if you'd be so bold . . .
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You can call us 24/7 at 706.389.8009. We'd really love to hear from you and feature your story on an upcoming episode!
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Friday Sep 25, 2020
Friday Sep 25, 2020
When do you feel manly? When do you feel not at all manly? Is "manliness" even something worth pursuing?
Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a return to one of our "classic" episodes in which we discuss opening pickle jars, killing cockroaches, camping out, working out, owning a home, and so much more on this simultaneously shallow and deep topic of manliness. We also dive into the deep end and discuss childhood wounds from PE and exclusions from men's events -- things that affected our budding sense of masculine belonging.
Finally, we can't help ourselves from diving into a little book that's made the rounds in Christian men's circles ... for better or worse or maybe a little of both ... Wild at Heart.
How does "manliness" differ from "masculinity," and what examples from Scripture can we point to and lean on as we pursue healthy masculinity?
ANNOUNCEMENT
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When do you feel the most or least manly? Is manliness something you want to pursue? Tell us a story if you'd be so bold . . .
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Friday Sep 11, 2020
Friday Sep 11, 2020
Bill Henson of Lead Them Home, Posture Shift, and Guiding Families joins Tom, Ryan, and Dean for a special guest discussion on loving LGBT+ people – both inside and outside the Church. How do we better understand LGBT-identifying people or those who experience same-sex attraction (SSA), and how do we love them well?
We learn some of Bill's story from a business background to full-time LGBT+ outreach and ministry as he tells us about LTH, including the origin story (and challenges) of the name. He also shares why LTH settled on using "LGBT+" in their messaging, as opposed to "LGBTQ+" or any SSA-related terminology.
Tom and Dean jump in with some of their own stories from attending and participating in LTH's Posture Shift events. Finally, Bill talks to us about justice initiatives and why justice should be an important issue for the Church.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
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Have you attended a Posture Shift event, and if so, what's something you gained from the experience? How natural or challenging is it for you to love people in the LGBT+ community? Tell us a story if you'd be so bold . . .
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You can call us 24/7 at 706.389.8009. We'd really love to hear from you and feature your story on an upcoming episode!
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Friday Aug 28, 2020
Friday Aug 28, 2020
It only took us 64 episodes to talk about celibacy! Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a discussion on sex, singleness, marriage, healthy sexuality, and this mystical notion of "calling."
How many guys in our YOBBERS group feel "called to celibacy"? We dive into our very scientific poll results and answer the question ourselves.
We also look to Scripture to round out our celibacy discussion: from Genesis (what does it mean for man to be "alone"?) to Jesus' bluntness on marriage and eunuchs to Paul's charge for singleness, along with his (and our) thoughts on those "burning with passion."
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
- Our last YOBcast, Episode 063: The Sex Talk
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Do you feel called to celibacy? Or to marriage? Or do you find yourself somewhere in the middle: open, content, or lost? Tell us a story, if you’d be so bold . . .
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You can call us 24/7 at 706.389.8009. We'd really love to hear from you and feature your story on an upcoming episode!
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You can also write to us at:
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Friday Aug 14, 2020
Friday Aug 14, 2020
We're talking about "the talk"! You know, "The Birds and the Bees" (whatever that even means). Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a trip down memory lane as we recount our memories (or lacks thereof) involving the sex talk with our parents, along with sex education at our schools.
How many folks do, in fact, actually receive the sex talk as a kid? Our very scientific poll results from our secret YOBBERS group may surprise you.
We also zoom out for a broader view of sex: how did our family upbringing and culture surrounding sex affect our thoughts and feelings on sex today? And what do we think of God's creating of sex?
We hope you enjoy our latest episode.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
- Our last YOBcast, Episode 062: "Side A" Friends
- Tom's purple bruise!
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Did you receive the sex talk as a kid? Did your family upbringing and culture surrounding sex affect your thoughts, feelings, and actions toward sex as an adult? Tell us a story, if you'd be so bold.
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You can call us 24/7 at 706.389.8009. We'd really love to hear from you and feature your story on an upcoming episode!
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You can also write to us at:
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Saturday Aug 01, 2020
Saturday Aug 01, 2020
"Side A" people follow Jesus with an affirming position on same-sex sexual relationships. As Jesus-followers from a "Side B" (traditional) position on marriage and sexuality, is it difficult or effortless to forge friendships with folks who are Side A? Join Tom, Dean, and Matt for a discussion on their experiences with Side A friendships: both with friends who started out Side A and also with friends who started out Side B – only for them to change to Side A.
Can Side B-turned-A friendships survive? How do we build healthy Side A friendships? We hope you enjoy our latest episode.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
- Our last YOBcast, Episode 061: Gratitude
- Dean's YOB ConvoCast: "Tom and Dean Go Back to Pawnee!"
- Matt's YOB ConvoCast: "Tom and Matt Speak Navajo!"
- Dean's blog: "Our Sexuality Doesn't Make Us Friends"
- Tom's blog: "The First Guy Who Ever Held My Hand"
- Tom's blog: "The First Guy Who Ever Tried to Kiss Me"
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
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Do you have any "Side A" friends as a "Side "B" (or X, Y, SSA, etc.) follower of Jesus? Why or why not? Have you lost any fellow "Side B" friends to a Side A theology, or have you maintained and built those friendships despite the new theological differences?
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You can call us 24/7 at 706.389.8009. We'd really love to hear from you and feature your story on an upcoming episode!
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You can also write to us at:
Your Other Brothers
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Friday Jul 17, 2020
Friday Jul 17, 2020
After a months-long hiatus of the show, Tom updates everyone on his new medical condition. Ryan and Jacob also join the show to share moments of gratitude from these last few months of the coronavirus pandemic. Additionally, the guys look back on their entire lives and recount moments of gratitude in their journeys with faith, homosexuality, and masculinity.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW
- Tom's GoFundMe page for medical expenses
- Our previous YOBcast episode on coronavirus and fear
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What highlights and blessings have you experienced during this long and hard coronavirus pandemic? For what specific moments or new perspectives are you grateful in your journeys of faith, homosexuality, and masculinity?
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You can call us 24/7 at 706.389.8009. We'd really love to hear from you and feature your story on an upcoming episode!
Prefer to get in touch privately? Shoot us an email: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
You can also write to us at:
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Friday May 08, 2020
Friday May 08, 2020
Tom welcomes back Ryan for the SEASON FINALE of the Corona ConvoCast! Tom asks Ryan about the velcro in his hair and continues wondering when his new podcast microphone will arrive. They also comment on Elon Musk’s new son’s name as well as Ryan’s exhaustion-turned-intolerance with Zoom. Tom expresses his biggest fear as states begin reopening and reflects on the last six weeks of this new podcast endeavor, clearing up the future of this show.
Join us in these weeks of the coronavirus pandemic for more 20-minute bite-sized conversations with members of the YOB and "YOB-adjacent" community. We hope these little episodes bring you even a dash of joy.
Remember: you are not alone! Even the sparrow stays at home.
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