Episodes
Monday Mar 25, 2024
CC083: Tom & Erin Celebrate Our First YOB+YOS Zoom and Lean into Lent!
Monday Mar 25, 2024
Monday Mar 25, 2024
Erin returns to discuss the development of Your Other Sisters, including our recently held coed Zoom call with Your Other Brothers! We recap our YOB and YOS call, including a critical icebreaker of our favorite condiments. We invite all who are interested in these YOB and YOS developments to join us! Man or woman, shoot us an email to learn more: contact[at]yourotherbrothers[dot]com
For the rest of the episode, we discuss this current season of Lent in these weeks leading up to Easter. We share some of our spiritual upbringings, including our experience with, or without, Lent, as well as with fasting in general. What are our motivations for fasting, and how do we practice fasting in healthy, God-honoring ways? How can we take our relationships with God in this season of Lent and continue growing them on the other side of Easter Sunday?
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
Are you observing Lent this year, or what is God teaching you in this season before Easter? Have you practiced fasting as a spiritual discipline? What prevents you or guides your motivations in fasting?
PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
- Tom's Lent blog: "Do I Fast to Punish Myself or Meet with God?"
- YOBcast 088: Advent & Sexuality
- YOBcast 094: Lent & Sexuality
- YOB ConvoCast 071: Erin Resonates with Queer Culture and Pansexuality
- YOB ConvoCast 072: Tom Feels Out "Androsexual" and Recaps the Series with Erin!
RATE/REVIEW US
FOLLOW THE CAST
GET IN TOUCH
- Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009
- Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
- Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
SUPPORT YOB
FOLLOW YOB
MUSIC CREDIT
“Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Friday Mar 08, 2024
CC082: Tom & Daniel Pitch this Summer's First European YOBBERS Retreat!
Friday Mar 08, 2024
Friday Mar 08, 2024
Our resident Enneagram Seven and unofficial international correspondent, Daniel, returns to pitch this summer's special gathering of YOBBERS -- in Europe! He joins Tom to discuss a smaller-scale retreat or "holiday" somewhere in the Mediterranean, inviting all who are interested to email him ASAP: daniel[at]yourotherbrothers[dot]com
Daniel also catches us up on his life in London -- including the exciting news that he is now a British citizen! He tells us about one country where he's already traveled with his new passport, as well as another on the horizon to see a certain female pop star perform. Finally, we invite AI to listen in on our entire Zoom conversation and summarize the episode! It's...chillingly accurate.
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Where else should YOB plan a future retreat? What theme should we explore for another YOB ConvoCast series this summer?
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ Daniel's Enneagram Seven ConvoCast
PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465
FOLLOW THE CAST
➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/
➡️ Daniel's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/daniel/
GET IN TOUCH
📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009
📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
SUPPORT YOB
➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com
➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros
FOLLOW YOB
➡️ Facebook: http://facebook.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Instagram: http://instagram.com/yourotherbros
➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers
➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros
➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW
MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Friday Feb 23, 2024
CC081: Tom & Andrew Review "Heartstopper" and Discuss Asexuality!
Friday Feb 23, 2024
Friday Feb 23, 2024
First-time guest Andrew joins Tom to discuss Netflix’s Heartstopper! It’s a queer coming-of-age show that many in our YOB community have enjoyed, though its depictions of queer romance could also be distracting for some (nothing sexual in the first two seasons, just lots of same-sex kissing). We discuss what we loved from the characters in romantic pairings to the loyal friendships that ultimately reinforce this show. We devote our remaining time to the show’s lone asexual character as two people in YOB who identify as asexual ourselves. What did we resonate with in this character, and where was the disconnect?
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Have you seen Heartstopper? What did you enjoy about the show, or where did you find something lacking? If you also identify with asexuality, what did you make of the show's take with its asexual character?
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ Keegan's ConvoCast on bisexuality
➡️ Tom's ConvoCast on asexuality
PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465
FOLLOW THE CAST
➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/
GET IN TOUCH
📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009
📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
SUPPORT YOB
➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com
➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros
FOLLOW YOB
➡️ Facebook: http://facebook.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Instagram: http://instagram.com/yourotherbros
➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers
➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros
➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW
MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Monday Feb 05, 2024
CC080: Tom & Andy Talk Super Bowl LVIII and Taylor Swift!
Monday Feb 05, 2024
Monday Feb 05, 2024
Tom’s straight younger brother Andy returns for his yearly appearance on the podcast to educate us on this year’s Super Bowl matchup between the Chiefs and 49ers! Beyond merely giving us the players to look out for, Vegas’s odds for the winner of this game, and his own prediction, he also educates us on a truly shocking Taylor Swift lyric. We dive into all the T-Swift and Travis Kelce storylines, along with the often loud objections to their media coverage. Is toxic masculinity out of control?!
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Who do you got in this year's Super Bowl? What are your thoughts on Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce's media coverage?
PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465
FOLLOW THE CAST
➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/
GET IN TOUCH
📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009
📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
SUPPORT YOB
➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com
➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros
FOLLOW YOB
➡️ Facebook: http://facebook.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Instagram: http://instagram.com/yourotherbros
➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers
➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros
➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW
MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Friday Jan 26, 2024
CC079: Alex Holds Hands with His Straight Guy Friends!
Friday Jan 26, 2024
Friday Jan 26, 2024
Alex is announced as our newest regular YOB contributor, and we get right into analyzing his blogs! We start with discussing a reflection of last fall’s YOBBERS retreat written by his mom and how this unique blog even came to be on our site. We also go behind the scenes and into greater depth with his recently posted blog about holding hands with his straight guy friends: one story in which a friend reached across a restaurant table to hold his hand, and another in which Alex extended his own hand toward a friend while walking with him in the park. How did fears of PDA impact both of these hand-holdings, and what other fears or insecurities did Alex wrestle with – both in the receiving and expressing of such open same-sex physical touch?
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Have you held hands with a male friend, straight or otherwise, in a public setting? What fears and/or triumphs have you experienced in the realm of physical touch with other men?
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ Alex's 2023 retreat blog: "Renewing Hope and Forming a Liturgy for Brothers at the YOBBERS Retreat"
➡️ Alex's mom's 2023 retreat blog: "Impressions of the YOBBERS Retreat from the Heart of a Mom"
➡️ Alex's hand-holding blog: "The Healing Power of Holding Hands with Another Man"
PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465
FOLLOW THE CAST
➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/
➡️ Alex's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/alex/
GET IN TOUCH
📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009
📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
SUPPORT YOB
➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com
➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros
FOLLOW YOB
➡️ Facebook: http://facebook.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Instagram: http://instagram.com/yourotherbros
➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers
➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros
➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW
MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Friday Jan 12, 2024
CC078: Tom & Matthew Analyze Gen Z Fashion and Relive Our 5th Retreat!
Friday Jan 12, 2024
Friday Jan 12, 2024
Matthew returns for a second go on the podcast as we dive into Gen Z fashion trends! Have the '80s and '90s just had a baby and its name is Gen Z? How do we feel about the enlarging of pants, the sprouting of pearl necklaces, and a resurgence in New Balances and Champion sweatshirts? Beyond their fashion choices, how do we feel about this generation's greater openness about sexuality and same-sex friendships? Tom poses some community fashion questions to Matthew as we get to know him better, namely how many hats, shoes, and flannels he owns. Finally, we look back at our fifth camp retreat held a few months ago, reveling in our victorious volleyball match against a group of teenagers. Matthew also shares with us a snippet of what he shared at the retreat when he got to speak for us one night, including the reminder that God is working and loves to work on us slowly.
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ What are your go-to fashion preferences, whether you're Gen Z or otherwise? Did you attend this past YOBBERS retreat and have any fond memories to share? And should Matthew get a thigh tattoo in his 40s??
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ YOBBERS Retreat Blog Archive
PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465
FOLLOW THE CAST
➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/
GET IN TOUCH
📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009
📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
SUPPORT YOB
➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com
➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros
FOLLOW YOB
➡️ Facebook: http://facebook.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Instagram: http://instagram.com/yourotherbros
➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers
➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros
➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW
MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Saturday Dec 23, 2023
CC077: Tom & Dawson Create New Christmas Traditions!
Saturday Dec 23, 2023
Saturday Dec 23, 2023
Dawson, formerly Adam in previous podcasts, returns to help Tom celebrate Christmas this year! Dawson shares why he celebrates Christmas in February in addition to December, and Tom tells a Christmas tale of the first man he ever feared. We reference the "Fancy Christmas" recently spent with our YOBBERS community, including someone’s goal to appreciate Jesus’ humanity during what can be a complicated, if not lonely Christmas season. We also give a little Survivor 44 and Survivor 45 recap for all the Survivor fans in our midst in this final podcast of 2023!
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Do you have any unique Christmas traditions? How do you feel about Christmas this year? Is it difficult to remember Jesus through whatever complicating dynamics you experience during the holidays?
PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465
FOLLOW THE CAST
➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/
GET IN TOUCH
📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009
📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
SUPPORT YOB
➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com
➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros
FOLLOW YOB
➡️ Facebook: http://facebook.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Instagram: http://instagram.com/yourotherbros
➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers
➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros
➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW
MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Monday Dec 18, 2023
CC076: Tom & Aaron Pitch Posture Shift!
Monday Dec 18, 2023
Monday Dec 18, 2023
Aaron returns to the microphone after a nearly yearlong hiatus! Tom catches up with our former YOBcast regular, and "Mr. Finance" gives us his financial forecast for 2024. Aaron also shares about Posture Shift, a nonprofit ministry he's gotten more involved with this year as a member of their advisory council. The guys share some Posture Shift event stories, including the first time Tom publicly identified as asexual on a Posture Shift panel, while Aaron recently met one of our YOBBERS from Scotland at a Posture Shift event! Check out the links below to learn more about this incredible event and organization, along with their Guiding Families resource.
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ YOBcast 065: Loving LGBT+ People w/ Bill Henson
➡️ Guiding Families: Fifth Edition
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Have you ever been to a Posture Shift event? Do you have any Posture Shift stories to share?
PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/12/18/yob-convocast-076-tom-aaron-pitch-posture-shift
RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465
FOLLOW THE CAST
➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/
➡️ Aaron's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/aaron/
GET IN TOUCH
📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009
📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
SUPPORT YOB
➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com
➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros
FOLLOW YOB
➡️ Facebook: http://facebook.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Twitter: http://twitter.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Instagram: http://instagram.com/yourotherbros
➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers
➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros
➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW
MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Saturday Dec 02, 2023
CC075: Tom & Matt are Making ”Side A” Friends!
Saturday Dec 02, 2023
Saturday Dec 02, 2023
It's our post-Thanksgiving episode! Matt returns to share how he celebrates Thanksgiving with his Navajo family, including which food takes the central place of the traditional American turkey. He also educates us with a Native American fact to help us commemorate Native American Heritage Month. For the rest of our conversation, Matt and Tom discuss the topic of "Side A" friendship -- that is, friendships with gay believers with an affirming theology or an acceptance of same-sex relationships. Matt mentions a new Side A friend, and Tom discusses his own recent experience with a Side A person, comparing it with a stilted interaction from over a decade ago. Has there been growth, and what does connection despite differing beliefs look like?
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ YOBcast 062: "Side A" Friends
➡️ YOBcast 065: "Side A" Friends Q&A
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Do you have any "Side A" friends? How do you connect with people of significantly differing beliefs, or is it difficult finding common ground?
PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/12/02/yob-convocast-075-tom-matt-are-making-side-a-friends
RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465
FOLLOW THE CAST
➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/
➡️ Matt's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/matt/
GET IN TOUCH
📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009
📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
SUPPORT YOB
➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com
➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros
FOLLOW YOB
➡️ Facebook: http://facebook.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Twitter: http://twitter.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Instagram: http://instagram.com/yourotherbros
➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers
➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros
➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW
MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Friday Nov 17, 2023
CC074:Tom & Daniel Explore Body Image and the Ideal!
Friday Nov 17, 2023
Friday Nov 17, 2023
Tom welcomes first-time guest and longtime community member Daniel to discuss journeys with body image and pursuit of the ideal! They share their adolescent vantages from both sides of the scale, Daniel overweight and Tom underweight, and how the gym and general fitness practices have factored into their lives in adulthood. There’s also a good amount of Enneagram talk with Daniel as a Nine and Tom as a Four chiming in from those perspectives (or is Daniel actually an Eight?). Despite the lack of the ideal body or ideal life, is there something of value we can offer the world in our seeming lack?
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ Tom's book, Struggle Central: https://store.yourotherbrothers.com/product/struggle-central/
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Have you struggled with your body image or sense of self-worth? How do you find peace in pursuit of the ideal?
PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465
FOLLOW THE CAST
➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/
GET IN TOUCH
📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009
📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
SUPPORT YOB
➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com
➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros
FOLLOW YOB
➡️ Facebook: http://facebook.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Twitter: http://twitter.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Instagram: http://instagram.com/yourotherbros
➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers
➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros
➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW
MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.